Negative feelings and thoughts can build up if we don’t release them, and on this website we talk about some healthy ways to let go of that negativity.
So what happens when POSITIVE feelings and actions – like good deeds, kind words, and feelings of accomplishment – build up? Personally, I begin to feel more confident and happy. My perspective shifts from negative to positive and I’m hopeful for the future.
If you’re often angry, impatient and sad, it can take a while to get into positive habits and change your perspective. But like me, you’ll find that with time, patience and practice you can shift your outlook, too!
Here are three simple things you can practice each day to move from feeling negative and defeated to positive and hopeful:
1. Go for a nice long walk. This helps clear your head, organize your thoughts and get your blood moving. Breathing in the fresh air relieves stress. Endorphins are released, making you feel good, and the natural outdoor light (even when it’s overcast) gives you a shot of vitamin D. I walk just about everyday, and it really does wonders.
2. Make a to-do list each day, and scratch off everything you accomplish after you do it! This may sound simple and silly, but it really does work. Every task we accomplish (big or small) gives us a sense of accomplishment, and that feels good. Don’t worry if you don’t get to everything on your list (most days never go as planned). You can add whatever you didn’t finish to your list for the next day. The more “little things” you begin to accomplish, the more you start to feel you can accomplish bigger things – and you can!
3. Make a habit of saying hello, good morning, or how are you to people you pass throughout the day. Hold doors open. Say please and thank you. You may feel uncomfortable at first – especially if you’re a private person – but it feels so good, it will soon become a habit. Don’t be discouraged if someone doesn’t respond in kind. It’s not personal, and you’re the bigger and better person for making the effort.
Written by Dennis Liegghio, reviewed and edited by Dr. Fran Brown, Ltd. Licensed Psychologist at Wentworth and Associates in Utica, MI.
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