When we’re feeling hurt, angry or sad it seems like our reaction is often to want to “just be left alone.” I know that was always my first reaction. I’d lock myself in my room, close the shades, shut the lights off and sit there, all by myself, dwelling on my misery. I would run whatever was wrong at the time through my head over and over, and the longer I did that – the bigger my problems seemed to be.
Even though the first thing we seem to want to do is isolate ourselves when we’re feeling this way, the best thing to do is reach out and connect with someone. My first go-to is trusted friends and family members. Sometimes I talk about what’s bothering me, and sometimes I just hang out with people that make me smile and laugh, people I have a great time with, to take my mind off things for a while.
Connecting with my friends and family when I’m feeling down always makes me feel better, even if it’s just a little bit. Sometimes, feeling a little bit better is all we need :)
Some ideas for building a network of friends you can rely on
when you need them!
- Join a youth group at your church
- Try out for whatever sports you are into
- Volunteer in your community
- Get involved with extra-curricular clubs at school (SADD, Key Club, Student Leadership, Drama, Art, Choir, Band, Debate — the possibilities here are endless! Contact your schools’ Student Activities Director to learn about all the opportunities you have to hang out with people who share your interests and passions.)
If you are feeling alone and can’t think of anyone to talk to please call 1-800-273-8255 for free, confidential counseling 24/7.
Written by Dennis Liegghio. Reviewed and edited by Ellen Paré, LBSW.
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