1. BE WILLING TO LISTEN: Someone who is thinking about suicide is consumed by their emotions and psychological pain. Allow them to talk about how they’re feeling. Don’t judge them for what they’re thinking or feeling and don’t try to offer advice or “fix” them. Just let them talk.
- Let them know that you’re concerned and explain why
- Ask if they are considering suicide or if they have a plan
- Remind them:
- that you care
- that they are not alone
- that there are other options, and that hope and help exist - Don’t attempt to argue them out of suicide or give advice
- Avoid saying things like:
“you have so much to live for” or “It’s not that bad”
2. SEEK HELP, NEVER BE SWORN TO SECRECY! Talk to someone you trust about what’s going on and seek support – for yourself – and for your friend or family member. Never keep thoughts or plans for suicide a secret.
- Encourage them to seek help from a counselor, physician, or mental health professional immediately. Offer to go with them.
- Give them the Lifeline phone number (1-800-273-8255) if they are unsure of who to call. Offer to make the call for them.
- Help them create a Safety Plan – click HERE for more about safety planning.
3. If Someone is in IMMEDIATE Danger: If a friend or loved one is threatening, talking about or making plans for suicide, these are signs of an acute crisis.
- Do not leave the person alone
- If possible, remove the means (firearms, drugs, sharp objects, etc.)
- Take the person to a hospital, emergency room or walk in clinic
- If the above options are not available, call 911 or 1-800-273-8255.
